Good health looks different for everyone; let’s stop comparing.
If you’ve ever scrolled through the likes of Instagram and been left feeling empty / low / fat / saggy / baggy / ugly / dimply / pimply (tick as appropriate), you are not alone. We’ve been playing this loser’s game way before the Internet existed, and now we’ve become Olympians in the dark art of social comparison.
Women (more than men) tend to evaluate their opinions and abilities by comparison to other women. A bit of healthy competition and comparison is okay - goals are good after all. But only when they’re attainable. And if you keep comparing yourself to the woman with a totally different body type and bank balance, you really are on a hiding to nothing. And if we’re not using other women as a barometer of our success, we look to our reflections rather than what kind of person we are. ‘Does my bum look big in this?’ rather than ‘Am I kind? Am I a good friend? Am I fulfilled?’. It’s a bummer.
Isn’t it sad that we love our children unconditionally, but show no hesitation in adding countless clauses and conditions to our self-love. “My life will be perfect IF I look like her off the telly”...”I will only deserve a decent boyfriend IF I lose the cellulite from my thighs.” Sound familiar?
Here’s the thing: good health is not a BMI, a body type or a dress size. It’s a bespoke outfit that looks very different on everyone. Each and every one of us is unique, thank goodness. Let’s keep it that way.
If in doubt, here’s some compelling reasons to alight the Crap Carousel of Comparison:
It demeans your achievements, and you never feel good enough.
It saps your energy...energy that could be put into something positive.
You are probably basing your comparisons on skewed perceptions, and not the truth.
Remember that other people’s social media accounts are often airbrushed showreels of success. Pseudo CVs if you will.
Compare and prepare for despair! It will steal your happiness and self-worth.
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